Nurturing a relationship: becoming parents whilst maintaining a healthy relationship

July 1st, 2024
becoming parents

Nurturing a relationship: balancing parenthood with a healthy partnership

When you first become a parent, it’s natural for your relationship to take a back seat for a little while.

You’re exhausted, you’re seriously lacking in sleep, and you’re more concerned about ensuring the baby has everything they need as opposed to worrying about scheduling in enough time as a couple.

However, as time goes on, it’s important to dedicate time to nurturing your relationship and ensuring the connection you share remains strong.

Adapting to your new roles

Parenthood brings immense joy and fulfilment, but it also tests your patience and introduces a new level of chaos that you didn’t know was possible. You may even find yourself becoming defined by your role as ‘mum’ or ‘dad’ and forgetting all of the other things that make you who you are.

Adapting to this new role can be difficult and here at The Therapy Room, we speak to a lot of new parents who are struggling with the change in their lives that having a baby presents.

The responsibility of becoming parents can strain even the strongest relationship and balancing the demands of raising children with maintaining a good quality relationship requires effort.

However, it is entirely possible to nurture both your relationship and your family life simultaneously.

Carving out time together

As a parent of small children, it’s easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of feedings, school runs, and extracurricular activities, but it’s important to remember that your partnership needs attention too.

When the newness of having a baby allays, make time to schedule in regular date nights or even brief moments of connection throughout the day. Remember that these don’t have to be elaborate meals out – a simple walk together, shared cup of coffee, or a night-in cooking a special meal, can work wonders in maintaining your bond.

It’s also essential to share the load. Parenthood is demanding, and dividing tasks fairly can prevent burnout and foster teamwork. This might mean alternating night shifts with a newborn, splitting school drop-offs and pick-ups, or ensuring that both partners have equal downtime. Recognising and appreciating each other’s contributions is invaluable.

Communication is another critical element. Discuss your parenting philosophies and expectations openly to ensure you’re on the same page. Consistent, clear communication helps in distributing responsibilities evenly and reduces the likelihood of misunderstandings and resentment. Make time to discuss not just practical matters, but also your feelings and concerns.

Finally, make sure you take time just for you. Becoming a parent doesn’t mean you stop being an individual with needs and emotions. If you had a hobby you enjoyed before becoming a parent, try and still make time for it when your child arrives.

Making sense of the chaos

Becoming a parent is one of the most life-changing things a person can go through. If you’re finding it difficult, you’re not alone, and it’s perfectly acceptable to want a bit of extra help in making sense of your emotions.

Here at The Therapy Room, we help many couples navigate the complexities of maintaining a healthy relationship while raising children.

We do this by providing you with a safe and supportive environment to explore your concerns and developing strategies together which balance your family and relationship needs.


Founder Jay L Pink Ad.Prof.Dip MBACP PC MNCS (ACC) established The Therapy Room to offer high quality, expert counselling and therapy services to people of all ages, as well as to couples for relationship and partner counselling and groups for corporate and family therapy. Jay’s commitment to anyone visiting The Therapy Room is to unconditionally respect values, lifestyle, background and beliefs, offering a discreet and professional service tailored to their needs.

Therapy is held either in-person at The Therapy Room in Northampton or online.

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