Why couples therapy works with a professional…

June 28th, 2023
healthy relationship and conflict in relationships

Why couples therapy works with a professional…

“I never said it would be easy, I only said it would be worth it.”
Mae West

Maintaining a healthy relationship takes effort and commitment from both partners and no couple is immune to challenges or conflicts along the way. 

Here at The Therapy Room, couples request our help for a variety of reasons – from seeking a resolution to a conflict in relationships, to issues with jealousy, addiction, infidelity, parenting and money.

Some couples come to us with communication issues and others don’t have any specific issues at all but instead want to learn more about each other in order to strengthen their bond. 

Whatever the reason, we can provide a safe, non-judgmental, and empathetic space for you to delve deeper into your relationship alongside a trained therapist.

Four myths about couples therapy 

Myth 1: Couples therapy is only for relationships in crisis. 

One common misconception about couples therapy is that it is only necessary when a relationship is on the brink of collapse. In reality, couples therapy can benefit couples at any stage of their relationship. Whether you’re dealing with minor communication issues, seeking to enhance your emotional connection, or navigating major life transitions together, couples therapy can provide valuable tools and insights to strengthen your connection.

Myth 2: Couples therapy is about assigning blame.

Another myth is that couples therapy is solely focused on finding fault and assigning blame to one partner or the other. In reality, effective couples therapy is not about pointing fingers but rather about understanding each person’s perspective, improving communication, and developing healthier patterns of interaction. 

Myth 3: Couples therapy is only for married couples. 

Couples therapy is not exclusive to married couples. It can be beneficial for any committed romantic partnership, including unmarried couples, same-sex couples, and couples in non-traditional relationships. 

Myth 4: Couples therapy is a quick fix. 

Couples therapy is not a magic solution that will miraculously fix all relationship problems overnight. Building a healthy and fulfilling relationship takes time and effort. Therapy provides a framework for couples to explore their issues, develop new skills, and create lasting change. It requires active participation and commitment from both partners outside the therapy sessions too.

Creating a safe and non-judgmental space

One of the primary reasons why couples therapy is effective is the creation of a safe and non-judgmental space for open communication. 

By establishing an environment where both partners can express their thoughts, emotions, and concerns freely, without fear of criticism or reprisal, and alongside a trained professional,  it ensures each person feels heard and understood.

Relationships can also be deeply impacted by unresolved trauma from the past. This may include trust issues, childhood trauma, or past relationship failures. Couples therapy provides a safe environment to address these wounds, fostering healing and growth.

A trained therapist possesses the expertise to navigate sensitive emotional terrain and provide the right environment to facilitate healing processes. They create a supportive space where partners can express their pain, receive validation, and work towards forgiveness and resolution. 

Gaining a fresh perspective

Though times are changing, there is a tendency for some people to view needing therapy as a sign of weakness. 

This actually couldn’t be further from the truth as it’s much easier to bury your head in the sand and ignore a problem than it is to face it head on. That’s why seeking therapy, either as an individual or a couple, is a sign of strength, as it demonstrates a willingness to actively work on your happiness and not accept the current state of things.

In the midst of relationship challenges, it is common for couples to become stuck in negative patterns and cycles. This is where a trained therapist can offer a fresh perspective by utilising their expertise to identify and shed light on underlying dynamics, belief systems, and unresolved conflicts that may be contributing to relationship distress.

Through effective questioning and reflective techniques, therapists can help partners develop a greater understanding of each other’s perspectives, paving the way for compassion and mutual growth.

Does couples therapy really work?

Couples therapy can be very effective and studies have shown that the numbers back up this claim. For example, the American Association of Marriage and Family conducted research that surveyed couples who had gone through couples therapy, with over 97% feeling they got the help they needed and 93% reporting that the work they did in therapy gave them the tools to better-handle conflict in their relationship.

If you are unsure about seeing a therapist, contact the Therapy Room for an initial chat. This will allow you to talk freely and openly about the issues you are experiencing and allows us to recommend a course of action. 

You have already taken the first step by reading this blog. 

Let’s get you both back to good. 

At the Therapy Room, we want to get you and your relationship back to good, whatever good looks like for you. We encourage open communication and honesty in order to make way for a healthy and pleasurable intimate connection, in whatever form that takes.

Founder Jay L Pink Ad.Prof.Dip MBACP PC MNCS (ACC) established The Therapy Room to offer high quality, expert counselling and therapy services to people of all ages, as well as to couples for relationship and partner counselling and groups for corporate and family therapy. Jay’s commitment to anyone visiting The Therapy Room is to unconditionally respect values, lifestyle, background and beliefs, offering a discreet and professional service tailored to their needs.

Therapy is held either in-person at The Therapy Room in Northampton or online. 

To organise a booking, please visit our bookings and payment page.