Why we don’t always love New Year’s Eve

December 16th, 2014

For some people, New Year’s Eve is all about the party, the dancing and the kiss at midnight. But for others, it’s a challenging time that can make us feel sad and lonely.


If you’re in the second group, the first thing to know is that you’re far from alone. New year has a tendency to make us think about our lives, what we’ve achieved and where we’re going. These are big issues and can make anyone feel daunted. But what if you’re feeling more than just a bit reflective?


Maybe you’re worried because your therapist is on holiday and you’re not sure how you’re going to cope. Think about who else can support you over this period and let them know how you’re feeling. You might be so good at putting on a ‘brave face’ that even your nearest and dearest don’t know you’re finding things difficult. You might also find it helpful to think of this as a time to put into practice the things you’ve learnt in therapy. It’s not forever; it’s just a week or two. So whether it’s breathing techniques, mindfulness or other coping strategies, now’s the time to apply all your new insights. If you feel concerned about feeling sad or depressed on New Year’s Eve and you need a therapist in Northampton, contact us.


You can also use this reflective time of year for your own benefit. Think about all the things you’ve done over the last 12 months that have worked. The times you felt happy, in control and relaxed. How did that happen? And what about the times you lost control, felt bad or stressed. What triggered those feelings? This could be the start of a roadmap for a happy year ahead.


So when 31st December rolls around, be kind to yourself. Get outside if you can – even if it’s just for a 15-minute walk. Focus on the little things: your breath, the way your body feels, and the sights and smells around you. Or take pleasure in activities that calm and ground you. Turn off your laptop and take a warm bath, stroke the dog, bake some bread or really listen to your favourite music. It’s your New Year’s Eve, so enjoy it in a way that works for you.


If you’re worried about how you’re going to cope with New Year’s Eve, contact us today and arrange to speak to a counselor.